I’m back and better than ever!
Alright, I know I took a serious hiatus, but I am proud to announce that I am back and ready for some serious blogging. I must admit that along the way, I lost my motivation for both of my blogs, and for that I am sorry. I needed time to recharge my batteries and get my creative juices flowing again. But everything is good and back to normal. While I was in mental rehab (a.k.a. just drinking) I have decided that I need to add some excitement to my life. Now here in San Jose, there is only so much you can do. Onlyl so many times you can go to the same bars. Although I love the bars that I normally go to, I must admit that it is time for a new social scene; a new change. Being a communications minor, I have been learning a lot about communication (obviously) and how people use different ways to communicate with each other. This one theory really stuck out to me. There’s this communication theory by this guy named Walther, who created this theory during the coming of the internet age during the mid-90s. He says that in regards to the world of dating, face-to-face communication builds the relationship a lot faster than online communication. Obvious reaons for this is the face to face interaction, the ability to have that visual connection with someone (how they look smell, body language, etc.). Online dating, however, is not necessarily better or worse, but it just takes a lot longer for the relationship to develop because of the slower rate of communication. Either way, you get to the same place. This theory has nothing to do with which relationship will work out better or whatever-it’s all about how you communicate. So, for the next couple of months, I will be testing out this theory. Silly to you I’m sure, but people must know the pros and cons of both face-to-face and online dating, and I am willing to be this guinea pig. I, along with my trusted sistas will roam around downtown San Jose and see which form of communication is more beneficial when it comes to the world of dating. Even if we don’t figure it out, I’m sure we’ll get a few free drinks and dinners out of it. Happy dating. 
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Tags: Bars, Communication, Dating, Dinner, Online
Can You Really Change a Man/Boy?
Alright, I may be a tad tipsy, but this is a valid question for any woman. Can you really change the personality of a guy? I mean really? Usually guys only change if they like you, but what if they don’t? Or if they aren’t sure? Does he have to be into you to change, or is it something that can happen over time? This is what I am going to find out this summer.
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Hilarious night last night. No, I didn’t go out and get wasted like I could have I’m sure, but hilarious nonetheless. I’m sure a lot of people do this, but don’t admit to it. Thankfully, you have ballsy Neesh here to admit to stupid things that prove to be pretty fun in the end. I spent a good thirty minutes looking at those casual encounters listings on Craigslist. There were some headlines I never thought I’d see in a public place. “Ready 4 ur cock now”, “19 year old seeking hot black man”, “25 year old seeking hard, sexy top”. Very disturbing. What was more disturbing wasn’t the fact that 19 year olds were getting into this, but the fact that some of them had pictures. And let me tell you, Craigslist lets these people just go at it with these photos. I dont even want to get into details, I’ve seen too many people (mostly men by the way) sprawled out on bedspreads just waiting for their “casual encounter” to come and have their way with them.
But what really drives a person to do this? It’s not just these weird listings, it’s also personal ads in general. Not all of them are sexual in nature. Some people really are looking for someone, sadly enough, even if it’s just for sex. I can’t help but feel sad for those people. Sad because they have to resort to measures such as this. Has it seriously gotten so hard for people to meet someone, even if it’s just for the night? Or are these people considered pathetic and don’t want to take that chance at possibly getting rejected?
But let’s switch gears for a second. When did online dating become popular? I’m being serious. Has everyone completely given up on face-to-face interaction that they revert to online dating? I remember one time meeting this boy over the internet back when perverts were starting to realize that the internet was easy access to their prey. But he was a cool guy. His name was Mike, he had a good sense of humor, introduced me to different kinds of things, different ways of thinking, and the best part was that he was older than me. He was a cool kid and I only wished he were real. I saw “pictures” of him, and he was a very handsome guy. But it still made me wonder-was that really him? Was he really telling me the truth?
I started to tap in to the appeal of the online dating world. I wanted to figure out why it was so appealing to people to sit and find the loves of their lives over the internet. One of my sorority sisters is one of these people. She has a Yahoo! personals ad and everything. So far, she has had about 60 hits to her profile, and she’s only had it for a few weeks. I spent some time searching for my “match” the other day while she was logged in to her profile. I clicked on the search link, and checked the boxes of the different features I wanted in my soulmate. He had to be tall, but it wasn’t necessary; he had to be somewhat fit, not a muscle building psycho or anything, but he had to make it known that he took care of himself; he had to be working, in school or out, older than me, etc. Turns out there is no match for me on Yahoo! profiles. It got me thinking. Was it me? Am I being too picky about what I want in a significant other? Or is it just that he is most likely not on Yahoo! profiles? I’m going to have to go with the latter answer.
So, in conclusion, all I have to say to these people is that if it works for you, I have no room to judge. It just obviously doesn’t work for me. Go look for your casual encounters, or for your soulmate on Yahoo! personals. Me, I’ll just go to a party. 
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Tags: online dating, party, Sexual encounters, Yahoo!
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